How To Be More Resilient

coaching resilience Nov 08, 2019

A senior work colleague…

… once told me that I didn’t have the resilience I needed to move up in my career! Can you imagine! I was fuming. How dare she? 

Three months later I was off sick from work for 5 weeks - go figure!

Was she right?

Yup! Now I can look back with the benefit of hindsight, I didn’t have the resilience I needed for the job I was doing, never mind progressing with my career! As it turns out, the best thing for me wasn’t to progress in my nursing career, it was to change direction and become a qualified life coach. But that hasn’t stopped me using that experience to learn and grow. I made it my mission to become more resilient and now I’m going to share how you too can be more resilient.

What is resilience?

Resilience is your body or minds’ effectiveness at recovering from a stressful situation. For example, if something stressful happens in the morning how quickly are you able to recover and go about your day as you had originally planned? For example, if you met traffic in the morning and that made you late for work (when you hate being late), would you be able to go straight into your first work task effectively? The second task? Third or fourth? The quicker you can go back into your “usual mode” the more resilience you have.

The good news - resilience isn’t something you have or you don’t have. We all have it, we just have different levels of it, and you can improve it!

How can I improve my resilience?

Firstly it is important to know that your personal journey towards improving your resilience is unique to you, there is no set way, just your way. You can use the suggestions below as you like, do the ones you feel good about and forget the others - figure out what works for you and your wonderful self.

 

Physical health

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Your physical health impacts on your emotional resilience (and vice versa). Here are a few ways you can improve your physical health (despite my background in nursing, this was the last thing I worked on - for me it was the easiest to let go and the hardest to achieve).

  • Move Your Body. Start from where you are at, if you don’t do any movement now, then maybe start to walk daily - even if it is only 5 minutes. If you run 3 times a week, can you include something else? - yoga for example.

  • Eat healthy - (my nemesis!). Could you increase your fruit and veg intake? Could you reduce how many fatty foods you eat?

  • Sleep - Do you get enough sleep? Could you set an earlier bedtime? Could you try a sleep meditation? I like to use the free meditations on Insight timer (this isn’t an advertising link, just a personal preference).

 

Emotional Health

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It is easy to take our emotional health for granted, until we notice it doesn’t feel too healthy. These ways of improving our emotional health can be used when you are feeling emotionally healthy too (it all works towards our resilience).

  • Be aware of your feelings: Sounds simple right? Not always, sometimes we can miss our bodies warning signs of emotions we are feeling and then Bam! They are there in intensity. If you can start to pay more attention to them, you may be able to catch them at the “warning sign” stage and put in strategies to prevent them from getting worse.

  • Talk to others: Talking about your emotions with those close to you, will help raise your awareness, but also allows others to be there for you, for them to be more attuned to where you’re at so that when you do need a little more support, they’ll be able to be there for you, you’ll also feel more able to ask for help. (Always remember that helping someone else makes us feel good :-) )

  • Understand yourself: Understanding what matters most to you will help you to have more control over how different areas of your life “feel”, knowing what makes you happy and doing more of that, what makes you sad and doing less. 

This is where my experience as a coach comes in - this is what I know, I know how to help you to figure this out and how to take control of your life, so that you can have way more of what makes you happy :-) Book yourself a free call today to talk about how I can help you.

Relaxation

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Another of those things we do when we are stressed, but may forget when we’re feeling ok. It’s a good idea to make a habit of things that help you to relax. This is just a short list of ideas, I’m sure if you took a minute to think you’d be able to think of loads more (feel free to share these in the comments below, for others to be inspired).

  • Have a warm bath.

  • Light a candle (My favourite is wild fig).

  • Have a massage.

  • Have your hair cut / get your nails done.

  • Go for a walk.

  • Read a magazine.

And so there you have it…

… a few different ideas for how you can improve your resilience - remember, everyone has resilience, even though some people are more resilient than others. The best thing is that there is lots we can do to improve it! You can take control of your life, you can be more resilient and you can live a life you love that brings you joy and happiness every, single, day!


Would you like some help to increase your resilience?

I’d love for you to feel how I feel, so let’s get together, and have a chat about how I can help you to get clear on what matters most to you, so that you can claim the life you deserve.

Do you think you could benefit from working with a coach? Feel free to book a call here and let's have a quick chat about what you are looking to achieve and how I can help you.

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